I feel like I’m heading for one of those “After School Special Endings” when it comes to my daughter and technology. I have been pretty open with her and have allowed her to explore technology on her own with no real filtering on my part. I guess this comes from the excessive trust that my fifteen-year old has earned throughout the years. I describe her as “lawful” because she is so concerned with doing things the right way and by the book. She doesn’t lie, steal or cheat. These traits can be annoying at times, but when it comes to parenting, it makes my job easier.
So, will the day come when something terrible happens via her use of technology? Am I blinded by the inevitable blinders that all parents have toward their offspring?
After looking into this subject a bit through this tech course, I’m planning on having a heart-to-heart discussion with her about being safe online and protecting her identity.
One reason I trust her is because she recently created a Twitter account. She didn’t just make one, she made two. One “fake” one that has nothing to do with her real name. This is the one she uses to follow celebrities and browse around. She also has a “real” one that she keeps private in case she ever wants to Tweet something real.
She also changed her Google account. I set one up for her several years ago, but she has grown into her own and created her own identity with a safe password.
She hated Facebook for a long time, but now she uses it pretty regularly. I’m not sure how safe that space is, but it’s a case of “everybody’s doing it” so what am I supposed to be concerned with?
Her biggest technology tool, and I’m sure this is true for most teenagers, is her cell phone. She doesn’t have a full-fledged smart phone, but she has a keypad and texting capabilities, and she uses it constantly. There was some switch that went on inside her head between age 13 and 15 that said, “START TEXTING ALL THE TIME!!!” And so she does.
So do I have to worry about her meeting some stranger online? Or having an online stalker? Does she use online to bully or is she being cyberbullied? I don’t know. I guess this is where our conversation will take us.